The Healthy Marriage Toolkit
Resource Recommendations To Help You Build The Marriage You Desire And Deserve.
Every household needs a toolkit for minor (or major) repairs. Here’s our list of what needs to be in your Healthy Marriage Toolkit.
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Books
Programs
Healthy Marriage Academy Courses
Articles
Movies
Positive Living
Books
Marriage Communication
Important books on communication and connection in marriage.
General Communication
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
- Gottman PhD, John (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 320 Pages – 05/05/2015 (Publication Date) – Harmony (Publisher)
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Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples
- Senarighi PhD CPC, Gina (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 256 Pages – 07/28/2020 (Publication Date) – Zeitgeist (Publisher)
Communication in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting (Better Marriage Series)
- Kusi, Marcus (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 146 Pages – 07/31/2017 (Publication Date) – Our Peaceful Family (Publisher)
4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work–Anywhere!: A How-To Guide for Practicing the Empathic Listening, Speaking, and Dialogue Skills to Achieve Relationship Success
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Leal III, Bento C. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
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I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
- Audible Audiobook
- Michael S. Sorensen (Author) – Michael S. Sorensen (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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Communication: Key to Your Marriage: The Secret to True Happiness
- H. Norman Wright (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 238 Pages – 10/31/2012 (Publication Date) – Bethany House Publishers (Publisher)
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Now You’re Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage
- Used Book in Good Condition
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Communication in Marriage: A Companion Workbook for Couples (Better Marriage Series)
- Kusi, Marcus (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 188 Pages – 08/30/2018 (Publication Date) – Our Peaceful Family (Publisher)
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Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict
- Robinson, Jonathan (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 176 Pages – 08/23/2012 (Publication Date) – Conari Press (Publisher)
Love Languages Series
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The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 224 Pages – 06/01/2024 (Publication Date) – Northfield Publishing (Publisher)
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The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 224 Pages – 05/01/2016 (Publication Date) – Northfield Publishing (Publisher)
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The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Increasing Joy and Trust with Your Teen
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 304 Pages – 06/04/2024 (Publication Date) – Northfield Publishing (Publisher)
The 5 Love Languages for Men: Tools for Making a Good Relationship Great
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
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The 5 Love Languages Workbook
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 112 Pages – 11/07/2023 (Publication Date) – Northfield Publishing (Publisher)
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The Language of Love: The Secret to Being Instantly Understood
- Smalley, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 336 Pages – 04/17/2018 (Publication Date) – Focus on the Family (Publisher)
The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional (One Year Signature Line)
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Boundaries Series
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Boundaries in Marriage Workbook
- Cloud, Henry (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 208 Pages – 02/01/2000 (Publication Date) – Zondervan (Publisher)
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Boundaries in Marriage Participant’s Guide
- Cloud, Henry (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 144 Pages – 08/01/2002 (Publication Date) – HarperChristian Resources (Publisher)
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Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
- Audible Audiobook
- John Townsend (Author) – Henry O. Arnold (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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[Boundaries in Marriage] [Author: Cloud, Henry] [August, 2002]
- Henry Cloud (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- Zondervan (Publisher)
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Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships
- Cloud, Henry (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 256 Pages – 08/01/2002 (Publication Date) – Zondervan (Publisher)
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Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children
- Audible Audiobook
- Henry Cloud (Author) – Henry O. Arnold (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No
- Author: Townsend, John.
- Publisher: Zondervan
- Pages: 288
Conversation Starters
TableTopics Original – 10th Anniversary Edition: Questions to Start Great Conversations, The Best Way to Spark a New Conversation & Create New Memories with Friends & Family, Or Meeting Someone…
- Spark Meaningful Conversations: TableTopics Original is a collection of 135 fun and thought-provoking questions covering a wide range of topics. The…
- Elevate Social Occasions: Whether you’re enjoying a glass of wine with friends, gathering for a casual chat with coworkers, or simply spending time with…
- Ice Breakers that Create Connection: TableTopics Original is a fantastic tool for fostering connections among diverse groups of people. Whether you’re with…
After Dinner Amusements: Family Time: 50 Conversation Starters (Conversation Card Game for Families, Portable Camping and Holiday Games)
- JUMPSTART NOSTALGIC MEMORIES: This cute, compact tin is filled with 50 thoughtful and playful questions to inspire great family conversations.
- PERFECT FOR FAMILIES: With a wide range of intriguing questions about the past, present, and future, this family-friendly party game leads to interesting…
- FACILITATES BONDING: These cards make it easy to break the ice at the next family dinner and learn new things about each other.
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Around the Table Games Family Talk Meaningful Conversation Starters and Car Travel Game
- FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY: Family talk is a creative and engaging game that allows for hilarious conversations and discussion to spark with every question in…
- TRAVEL GAME: Coming complete with a durable clip, Family talk can be taken just about anywhere for family fun no matter where the day may take you whether…
- AWARD WINNING: The winner of the Dr. Toy Top 10 Games, iParenting Media, National Parenting Center Seal of Approval, and Learning Magazine’s Teachers…
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RETHiNK Card Deck Mindful Conversation Starters: 56 Questions to Encourage Compassion, Shift Perspective & Build Connection
- Theo Koffler (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 58 Pages – 10/31/2017 (Publication Date) – PESI Publishing, Inc. (Publisher)
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101 Conversation Starters for Couples
- Hardcover Book
- Gary Chapman (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
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101 More Conversation Starters for Couples
- 101 More Conversation Starters for Couples By Chapman Gary D Presson Ramon L
- Chapman, Gary (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Christian Culture (Couples Edition) – Conversation Starters for Christian Couples – Meaningful Discussions That Bring Couples Closer to Each Other and to God – Christian Cards – Christian Gifts
- Deepen your connection with God and each other: Foster a stronger bond with your partner and with God through 103 thought-provoking conversation cards for…
- Versatile usage for every relationship stage: Whether you’ve just met or have been together for decades, whether you’re engaged, newly married, or…
- Explore Biblical stories: Gain insights from the timeless wisdom of biblical couples, encouraging you to reflect on their experiences. From the story of…
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101 Conversation Starters for Families
- Hardcover Book
- Gary Chapman (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Marriage Values
Resources on shared values and core values in marriage.
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Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs
- Audible Audiobook
- Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (Author) – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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Love and Respect Workbook: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
- Eggerichs, Dr. Emerson (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 232 Pages – 07/30/2005 (Publication Date) – Thomas Nelson (Publisher)
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Language of Love and Respect
- Eggerichs, Dr. Emerson (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 368 Pages – 09/17/2009 (Publication Date) – Thomas Nelson (Publisher)
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Love and Respect in the Family: The Transforming Power of Love and Respect Between Parent and Child
- Audible Audiobook
- Emerson Eggerichs (Author) – Jonathan Eggerichs (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
100 Ways to Love and Respect Your Husband: The 100 Day Challenge for a Surviving and Thriving Marriage
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Roberts, Karolyne (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
- Gottman PhD, John (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 320 Pages – 05/05/2015 (Publication Date) – Harmony (Publisher)
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What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
- Used Book in Good Condition
- Gottman Ph.D., John (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Making Relationships Work by John Gottman, Ph.D.
- Amazon Prime Video (Video on Demand)
- — (Director)
- (Playback Language)
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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last
- Author: Gottman, John PhD.
- Publisher: Simon & Schuster
- Pages: 240
Marriage Trust
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The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples
- Audible Audiobook
- John M. Gottman Ph.D. (Author) – J. Charles (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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Marriage Builder: Creating True Oneness to Transform Your Marriage
- Audible Audiobook
- Dr. Larry Crabb (Author) – Dick Hill (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
Marriage on the Rock 25th Anniversary: The Comprehensive Guide to a Solid, Healthy and Lasting Marriage (Marriage on the Rock Book) (A Marriage On The Rock Book)
- Evans, Jimmy (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 332 Pages – 08/27/2019 (Publication Date) – XO Publishing (Publisher)
Marriage on the Rock Discussion Guide: For Couples and Groups
- Evans, Jimmy (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 84 Pages – 04/15/2020 (Publication Date) – XO Publishing (Publisher)
Marriage On The Rock: Couple’s Discussion Guide (A Marriage On The Rock Book)
- Evans, Jimmy (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 160 Pages – 11/25/2018 (Publication Date) – Independently published (Publisher)
Marriage On The Rock: God’s Design For Your Dream Marriage (Marriage on the Rock Book)
- Jimmy Evans (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 330 Pages – 12/14/2018 (Publication Date) – XO Publishing (Publisher)
Marriage Intimacy
Resources on physical intimacy and sex.
Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage: How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage (Better Marriage Series Book 2)
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Kusi, Marcus (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage (The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Series)
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- DiLorenzo, Alisa (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
40 Day Intimacy Challenge For Couples: Ignite Intimacy In Your Marriage Through Conversation, Romance
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Workbooks, Blue Rock Couples (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
20 Day Sex Challenge For Couples: Ignite Intimacy In Your Marriage Through Conversation, Romance, And Sexuality In This Couples Workbook (Marriage Workbook Challenges)
- Workbooks, Blue Rock Couples (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 43 Pages – 01/17/2020 (Publication Date) – Independently published (Publisher)
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The Intimate Marriage: A Practical Guide to Building a Great Marriage (R. C. Sproul Library)
- Second Edition
- Sproul, R.C. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
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Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage
- Ed Wheat MD (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 288 Pages – 01/11/2022 (Publication Date) – Revell (Publisher)
The Art of Intimate Marriage: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Sexual Intimacy
- Konzen, Dr. Jennifer (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 312 Pages – 06/25/2016 (Publication Date) – Konzen Publishing (Publisher)
Marriage Help
Resources to help you get your relationship back on track. Also see our section on Marriage Programs.
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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before — and After — You Marry
- Hardcover Book
- Parrott, Les (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Recovering From The Affair: Your Guide To Saving Your Marriage After Emotional Or Physical Infidelity
- Baucom PhD, Dr. Lee H. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 158 Pages – 06/08/2017 (Publication Date) – CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (Publisher)
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The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships
- Author: Gottman, John.
- Publisher: Harmony
- Pages: 336
For Men
Resources just for men.
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The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the “Love Lab” About What Women Really Want
- Audible Audiobook
- John Gottman (Author) – Eric Michael Summerer (Narrator)
- English (Publication Language)
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For Men Only, Revised and Updated Edition: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
- Hardcover Book
- Feldhahn, Shaunti (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
For Women
Resources just for women.
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For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men
- Hardcover Book
- Feldhahn, Shaunti (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
Programs
Love and Respect Live Marriage Conference
Love and Respect Live Marriage Conference DVD – Small Group Kit (Includes 10 Workbooks)
There will be three major questions asked and answered in the 6+ hours of content:
1. Why do we negatively react to each other in marriage? This will be explained in what is called the Crazy Cycle.
2. How do I best motivate my spouse? The Energizing Cycle answers this question.
3. What if my spouse does not respond to me? The Rewarded Cycle informs us what to do.
Save the Marriage System by Lee Baucom
It’s More Than Just Marriage Rescue. It’s About Marriage Revived!
Who wants to be in a “mediocre” marriage relationship?
Most couples believe that their marital problems mean that they are destined to, at best, have an “okay” marriage. This could not be further from the truth. You don’t have to settle for anything less than the marriage relationship of your dreams!
Mend The Marriage by Brad Browning
It’s More Than Just Marriage Rescue. It’s About Marriage Revived!
Who wants to be in a “mediocre” marriage relationship?
Most couples believe that their marital problems mean that they are destined to, at best, have an “okay” marriage. This could not be further from the truth. You don’t have to settle for anything less than the marriage relationship of your dreams!
Movies
FireProof
A feel-good drama, Fireproof has a strong agenda: stay married, lead an honest life, and let your faith in a higher power help guide you. A still boyish-looking Kirk Cameron (Growing Pains) stars as Caleb Holt, a mercurial-tempered firefighter whose marriage is on the rocks. He clearly enjoys his status as a hero, but it comes at the expense of his marriage. His wife Catherine (Erin Bethea) is tired of the distance and wants him to make more of an effort at home, rather than surf porn on the Internet and hoard his earnings toward his dream fishing boat instead of helping out her disabled mother. Faced with impending divorce, Caleb’s dad challenges him to follow the “40-day love dare,” in which each task (cook her dinner, say nothing negative, etc.) is meant for him to better understand love and commitment and try and win his wife back.
Positive Living
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The Forgive Process: A Little Book on Forgiving and Letting Go
- Baucom Ph.D., Lee H. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 142 Pages – 10/09/2018 (Publication Date) – Morgan James Publishing (Publisher)
Thrive Principles: 15 Strategies For Building Your Thriving Life
- Amazon Kindle Edition
- Baucom Ph.D., Lee H. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
The Immutable Laws of Living: The Inspirational Blueprint to Living Your Meaningful Life
- Baucom Ph.D., Lee H. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 172 Pages – 04/24/2018 (Publication Date) – Morgan James Publishing (Publisher)
The Thrive Journal: Your Daily Journal for Building a Thriving Life
- Baucom PhD, Dr. Lee H. (Author)
- English (Publication Language)
- 193 Pages – 07/06/2020 (Publication Date) – Independently published (Publisher)
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Check back often because we add to our recommendation list frequently. When we find new programs, we try to include them so you can have access to the latest and best programs to build a healthy marriage.