I’m often asked (mostly by younger men) if they should get their wife a gift for Mother’s Day. I always tell them, Yes! Here’s why…
When I was younger I made the mistake of asking an older man what he got is his for Mother’s Day. She was standing next to him. I thought it was an innocent question. However, her head dropped and she stared at the floor. He responded: Why would I get my wife something for Mother’s Day? She is not my mother?
I could see the pain in her eyes.
I would like to be able to offer a defense of his position, but I can’t. Especially since his attitude wasn’t nice. There was no authenticity in his voice. He was blunt and unconcerned about her feelings. I doubt he even noticed how she responded.
7 Reasons Husband Should Honor Their Wives On Mother’s Day
These seven reasons should inspire you to make Mother’s Day special for your spouse.
Reason #1: She Is The Mother Of Your Children
Although your wife is not your mom, she is a mom. Specifically, she’s the mother of your children. That in itself is reason enough to treat her special on Mother’s Day.
If we’re honest, we can acknowledge how much she does to make sure the household runs smoothly. If you’ve ever had the kids by yourself for a weekend, you know what I mean.
Mother’s Day is a great opportunity to treat them special.
Reason #2: She Deserves To Be Honored And Acknowledged
As I mentioned in the previous point, moms keep the household running properly.
I know in our case, we mostly deal with grandkids. Now. Our children are grown. But it’s my wife who makes sure they are taking care of when they’re with us.
This doesn’t happen because we have an old school traditional household. Far from it. However, it’s my wife who instinctively knows what needs to be done for the grandkids. She says it’s in her DNA.
I tend to agree. It’s all the more reason she deserves to be honored as a mom.
Reason #3: You Are Teaching Your Children How To Treat Her
Children learn more from example than textbooks.
When we show respect and honor to our wives, they take notice. They learn how to do life by watching us through life.
They learn how to treat others. By the way, we treat others.
And I learn how to respect their spouse by how we treat our spouse.Children learn more from example than textbooks. Click To Tweet
These are basic principles of how life works. It is naive to think that we can teach our children how to treat one another by simply telling them the rules. It doesn’t work like that.
We learn by observing the world around us.
This is one reason we should show respect for our spouse on all occasions. But especially on special occasions.
The hard fact is, they will treat their mom the way we treat their mom.
If you want to dig deeper into the issue of raising children, there is interesting research on why taking your children to church has hidden benefits.
Reason #4: It Let’s Her Know You Validate And Love Her
Showing appreciation is simply a nice gesture. Anytime we do something nice for someone it lets them know we value them.
It’s really no more complicated than that.
There’s an automatic response we have when we love and care for someone. We want to give to them. It’s human nature. It’s how we’re wired.
So when we do that for someone they understand it’s out of love and appreciation. So it validates them.Showing appreciation is simply a nice gesture. Anytime we do something nice for someone it lets them know we value them. Click To Tweet
Treating someone with kindness is what we ought to do on a daily basis. Much more on special occasions.
Reason #5: It Validates Her Role In The Family
I’m not talking about some machismo belittling mentality toward women. Rather, a genuine appreciation for what she does for your family.
While many traditional lines are disappearing, there is still a distinct role a mother plays in the household. She brings a certain ‘touch’ to the family that only a mother can offer.
It’s appropriate to acknowledge this gift she brings.
Reason #6: It Will Make Her Feel Special
Unfortunately, we usually only show special appreciation on special occasions. It shouldn’t be this way, but often we get busy and overlook the most important aspects of life – each other.
Since this is our tendency (although it shouldn’t be and we should work to change this), it’s important to capitalize on the moments that give us the opportunity to express our love and make our spouse feel special.
I’ve often said, ‘Communication is not about sharing our thoughts, it’s about understanding and making sure our partner understands our heart.’
In other words, just because you say something, doesn’t mean that is the message your partner hears. Communication is about connection.
When we seize the opportunity to make our wife feel special, we make our words more powerful.
Our actions make our words mean something.Our actions make our words mean something. Click To Tweet
Let’s face it, we all want to feel special. The simple act of giving your wife a card, flowers, or gift makes them feel loved and valued.
Also Read: Mother’s Day Questions To Ask
Reason #7: It Will Strengthen Your Relationship
It’s not the gift that makes your marriage strong. It is the expression of appreciation.
You’ve heard the statement: It’s the thought that counts.
This is true IF an action accompanies the thought.
There’s a principal in psychology called Attachment Theory. It is mostly used to explain the bonding that happens in the early stages of life with a baby’s caregiver. But it can explain how bonds and attachments happen in all relationships.
In essence, it says that when we share something with someone it creates a bond to that person.
When we give of ourselves to another person, there’s an emotional attachment that happens. The more we give, the stronger the bond.
I’ve often observed that couples who struggle in their relationship usually violate this principle. Somewhere along the line. They stopped giving to one another. They stopped serving each other.
Once they start the trajectory of living independent and selfishly, it creates more distance. A snowball type effect comes into play.
If the more you serve one another creates a stronger bond, the less you serve one another servers that bond.
If you want to create a strong connection in your relationship, it has to begin with serving one another.
Mother’s Day creates a great opportunity to show respect and serve our spouse in a way that will create a stronger connection and bond in marriage.
One Final Thought
For those who question the idea of giving your wife a gift for Mother’s Day, what reason can you have for NOT treating her special on this occasion?
Forgive me if that sounds harsh. But I think anytime we have an opportunity to treat someone special, especially our spouse, we should seize the opportunity.
We shouldn’t make excuses not to treat them special. We should look for reasons to treat them special.
The most successful marriages are those we’re both parties seek to out give and out love one another.
To understand this concept better, watch our video on men with no elbows.
What’s The Best Gift For A Wife On Mother’s Day?
Giving a gift doesn’t have to be elaborate. In fact, some of the most valued gifts I’ve received were small sentimental things I treasure.
My wife and I usually give each other a card and letter (and flowers from me) on special occasions . It’s not that we never buy gifts. We do. But our love language (and age) gears us towards more sentimental expressions of love. Written words fill that slot.
Gifts are unique to each person. What one person likes, another person may dislike. When it comes to shopping for presents, you need to know what they like and want. The perfect gift is the gift they truly want.
The basics would be cards, flowers, and jewelry. But there is much more to explore. Here are a few ideas on some thoughtful gifts you can consider giving to your wife.
Here is a list of 21 ideas for Mother’s Day gifts:
- A heartfelt card
- A special dinner
- A day at a spa
- A weekend getaway
- A beauty box (Shop Amazon)
- A new purse or shoes
- A day of pampering
- A homemade gift
- Breakfast in bed
- A day at the beach or park
- A new book
- A gift card or certificate to her favorite store
- A massage
- A manicure or pedicure
- Tickets to a show or play
- A basket of her favorite things
- A photo album or frame
- Gold or silver jewelry (bracelet, ring, necklace)
- A ___________ (fill in the blank with something special and thoughtful just for her!)
- BONUS: Spend time with her to let her know how much you love her.
The shopping links below will take you to Mothers’ Day Specials.
Final Thoughts on Mother’s Day Gifts For Wives
Mom’s make the world go-round. And every mom deserves to be honored, valued, and treated with love and appreciation on Mother’s Day. That’s why we recommend husbands buy their wives a card and/or gift on this special occasion.
In this article, we talked about 7 reasons husband should honor their wives on this day. We also gave you a few hints on gifts you can give your wife.
- 7 Reasons Husband Should Honor Their Wives On Mother’s Day
- Reason #1: She Is The Mother Of Your Children
- Reason #2: She Deserves To Be Honored And Acknowledged
- Reason #3: You Are Teaching Your Children How To Treat Her
- Reason #4: It Let’s Her Know You Validate And Love Her
- Reason #5: It Validates Her Role In The Family
- Reason #6: It Will Make Her Feel Special
- Reason #7: It Will Strengthen Your Relationship
- One Final Thought
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