Lack of trust is one of the major reasons marriages dissolve. Is it worth staying in a marriage without trust? Here are 6 things to consider!

I’ve been married to my husband for seven years, and I can tell you that our marriage is built on trust. We support each other, we encourage one another, and we never have to doubt whether the other person has our best interest at heart. It’s a great way to live your life, but it’s all about having trust in a relationship! – THM Reader

If you don’t have that level of trust in your spouse and your marriage, then read on. These six things will help you navigate the murky water of mistrust.

Trust issues affect many married couples. Jealousy. Infidelity. Lack of confidence. Self-centeredness. These cause loss of trust in a relationship. This is part of our ‘Should You Stay’ series.

If you’re 100 percent sure that you can’t trust your spouse, that is a problem.

Most counselors will tell you It’s not worth staying in a marriage without trust. You won’t be able to have a healthy relationship and family life if there’s no trust. And it’s not worth staying in a marriage without love either.

It may sound extreme, but if we want to fix the world—and by “fix” I mean make it better for everyone—we need to start with our own homes and relationships.

Since trust in marriage is the foundation all intimacy is built upon, it is essential to make it a primary focus of your relationship.

If your spouse is cheating on you, trust will be an issue.

This is a given. Trust is about being confident your spouse has your best interest at heart and will be faithful.

If your spouse is cheating on you, it only stands to reason you can’t trust them.

Cheating is one of the biggest reasons why trust is broken and if that’s happening in your marriage, it’s a sign that the person is not trustworthy. That doesn’t mean they’ll always be dishonorable. But it takes work to rebuild trust once it is broken.

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Trust means believing in someone’s character and integrity.

Trust is the belief that someone has character and integrity, and is worthy of your confidence. It is a feeling of safety and security in a relationship because you know your partner would never intentionally hurt you or betray your trust.

Trust means believing in someone’s character and integrity. It’s a feeling that you are safe around someone, so they won’t do anything to hurt you physically or emotionally.

Trust grows when there are positive experiences together; it fades when there are negative experiences together.

You can’t work through a marriage without trust.

Trust is the foundation of marriage; it’s what holds your relationship together and makes it work. Without trust, your marriage will crumble, leaving both of you feeling hopeless and alone in the world.

Confidence in your spouse is what allows you to be yourself around your spouse. If they don’t trust you enough to know that when they get home from work at night, everything will be fine because they know that no one else is going through their underwear drawer or snooping around their computer history—if they don’t see that kind of trust in their relationship—then there’s nothing left for them but resentment and anger at being deceived by someone who was supposed to love them unconditionally.

There is no way to rebuild trust if your spouse is not trustworthy.

As mentioned before, trust is a two-way street. There isn’t any way to rebuild trust if your spouse isn’t trustworthy. Trustworthy (by definition) means worthy of trust. If they are not worthy of trust, it is impossible to give them trust.

If your partner is not willing to work on the marriage and rebuild the broken relationship, then it may not be worth staying in the relationship. If your partner does want to work on rebuilding their trust and keeping you safe, but they continue breaking promises or letting you down repeatedly, it might be time for you to move on.

I say this with trepidation and godly fear. I do not recommend divorce (or even separation) lightly. Many times it only complicates the issue more. But marriage is based on trust. If that trust is broken and your spouse does not want to rebuild the broken confidence, you are faced with difficult decisions.

I recommend talking with a professional who can help you determine what stage your relationship is in and help you move toward a healthy response.

Staying in a marriage without trust will make you unhealth

A marriage without trust is like a house built on sand – it’s bound to collapse. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it’s especially important in marriage. Without trust, you and your spouse will constantly be at odds, second-guessing each other’s motives. This can lead to all sorts of problems, both big and small.

You may start to feel like you’re walking on eggshells, always afraid of saying or doing something that will set your spouse off. This can make you feel anxious and stressed, which takes a toll on your mental and physical health. Your marriage may also start to feel more like a chore than a partnership.

It’s hard to stay in a marriage without trust. Eventually, the lack of trust will erode your relationship to the point where it’s no longer sustainable.

This can have a negative effect on your healthy by causing you to feel isolated, anxious, and stressed. It is commonly known that stress is the source of many physical problems including:

1. High blood pressure
2. Sleep problems
3. Gastrointestinal problems
4. Skin problems
5. Headaches

Therefore, it is essential to have trust in a marriage in order to maintain a healthy relationship.

It doesn’t matter if you’re married for 50 years or less than 10 years; staying in a marriage after the trust has been broken is not healthy for you or your partner.

Trust is an integral part of any relationship, but it’s especially important in a marriage. A lack of trust can be one of the main reasons why people divorce their partners.

You cannot build or maintain a strong relationship without mutual respect and honesty between both partners. If one person lacks those things, then there will inevitably be problems down the road no matter how much effort they put into making things work together as husband and wife or even just as roommates living together under one roof (which is what many couples do).

Trust works both ways though: it’s not just about being trustworthy when we tell others what we know about ourselves; it also means believing them when they speak with us honestly about themselves too!

It’s sometimes hard to do this because humans have self-serving motives behind what they say; however, trusting someone fully means believing that their intentions are pure–that they’re telling us only because they want us to know something important.”

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Final Thoughts

Broken trust destroys relationships. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If your marriage is based on deception, lack of confidence, and infidelity, it is difficult to make it work. It’s possible, but things must change. 

Without trust there can be know true connection and intimacy – which are fundamental to a healthy marriage.

Summary

• If you’re 100 percent sure that you can’t trust your spouse, that is a problem.
• If your spouse is cheating on you, trust will be an issue.
• Trust means believing in someone’s character and integrity.
• You can’t work through a marriage without trust.
• There is no way to rebuild trust if your spouse is not trustworthy.
• Staying in a marriage without trust will make you unhealth

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