How to talk about sex with your spouse. Discover the importance of discussing it, and how to approach the subject in a non-judgmental way.
The foundation of this conversation lies not just in the courage to open the conversation, but in the approach and mindset with which you engage your spouse.
Talking about sex with your spouse is important for keeping your relationship healthy and happy, kind of like making sure a plant gets enough sunlight and water to grow. Imagine you’re about to play a team game or work on a group project; you’d want to start by making sure everyone knows the plan and feels good about it, right? That’s a bit like discussing this topic with your partner.
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First up, think about why you want to have this chat in the first place. It’s like setting up your game plan with the goal of making things better between you two.
When you’re ready to talk, it’s like starting a game on the right foot. You want to make sure both of you are in a good mood and ready to listen to each other, kind of like making sure no one is stressed or upset before starting a project.
Before you jump into the conversation, it’s helpful to know exactly what you’re hoping to get out of it. Just like when you’re planning a project, knowing what you want the end result to look like can really help guide your discussion.
Then, when you’re talking about what you like or want, try to focus on the good stuff. It’s like when you’re giving a friend feedback on their part of a project; you start with what they did well before you suggest improvements.
Sometimes, it helps to talk about easier stuff first, like making sure you both agree on the rules of the game, to build trust and make talking about the trickier topics easier later on.
In this video, Joseph Nolan offers practical advice on how to have the ‘sex talk’ with your spouse, and why it is a conversation every couple should have.
What’s Next?
Talking to your spouse about sex is like working on a team project where open communication, understanding, and mutual respect are key.
Start by figuring out why you want to have the conversation and make sure both of you are in the right mood to talk. It’s important to know what you want from the discussion and to focus on the positives.
Build trust by tackling easier topics first, and remember to concentrate on what makes you happy too. Being kind and understanding towards each other’s feelings and insecurities makes the conversation smoother.
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