How to Make Your Wife Respect You: Fostering a Thriving Marriage with Timeless Principles

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Respect is the cornerstone of a healthy and thriving marriage. Like the roots of a mighty oak tree, it provides the foundation necessary for love, trust, and understanding to grow and flourish.

Drawing from basic psychological principles and Christian ethics, we can nurture and strengthen the respect between spouses.

In this article, we’ll explore ten strategies to help you cultivate a deeper sense of respect with your wife, fostering a harmonious and enduring relationship.

Before we talk about the ten principles, let’s lay a foundation for discussing respect.

Levels Of Respect

There are various levels of respect. In this article, we will put respect into two categories.

Level One and Level Two.

Level One respect is the general respect we should give to every person. We will talk more about this in the next section.

Level Two respect is the respect we give because a person has proven their value, integrity, and honor.

The question, ‘How do I make my wife respect me?‘ is a level two category. At least, that’s the approach we take in this article.

Earned Not Given

Respect is a two-sided coin. On one side, respect is something we should give to every person. Regardless of our political or religious beliefs, in spite of our racial and gender difference, and, no matter what their financial situation is, we should show respect to all individuals. Even if we do not share the same beliefs, they should still be treated with respect.

That’s one side of the coin.

The other side is respect is earned. 

You can’t expect people to (maintain) respect for you if you live in a way that is unworthy of genuine respect.

These two truths must be kept in balance.

In one sense, the first side of the coin is how we treat other people. We show them respect.

The other side is how we live to earn respect.

Problems arise when we expect people to show us respect but we are not willing to act in ways that earn it.

Below, we offer ten (10) principles that will help you earn the respect of your wife (or any person).

It’s important to note that these principles are things you have to put into your life; they are not things you demand from your spouse.

Since respect is earned, there are practical (yes, practical) things we can do to gain the respect of others. This is especially valuable in marriage.

These principles are eternal; they apply to everyone in all cultures and all times. They are based on psychological research and human nature.

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10 Prinicples On How To Earn Respect

For a fulfilling and healthy relationship, experts emphasize the need for respect. However, respect isn’t something that can be handed out easily. It’s necessary to practice certain principles on a daily basis within relationships and everyday life to earn it.

By prioritizing these principles, it’s possible to develop genuine respect in both personal and professional relationships. 

Relationship experts suggest that these 10 principles can help you achieve such a foundation. So if you want a successful relationship, these concepts will help you grow in your personal life and recover any loss of respect in your marriage.

Principle #1: Cultivating a Garden of Open Communication

Open and honest communication is akin to the gentle rain that nourishes a garden. By sharing your thoughts, feelings, and concerns respectfully and encouraging your wife to do the same, you create an environment where understanding and trust can blossom.

Just like a garden needs water to be healthy, a relationship needs communication to flourish. When a couple communicates openly and honestly, it allows them to understand their partner better. This understanding helps them to trust each other, build a strong foundation, and grow closer.

Communication is like the rain that nourishes athe garden. Without the rain, the flowers will wither and die. Similarly, without communication, a relationship will suffer.

Principle #2: The Art of Active Listening

Active listening is like a mirror, reflecting your wife’s thoughts and feelings back to her. By giving her your undivided attention and seeking to understand her perspective, you demonstrate that you value her opinions and emotions, fostering mutual respect.

Active listening serves as a bridge that connects two individuals. If you make the effort to listen and comprehend their thoughts and emotions, you are constructing a bridge that connects your hearts to one another. This creates an atmosphere of understanding and respect, which can strengthen the relationship.

Visualize it as a seesaw. When you actively listen to your partner, you add more weight to their side of the seesaw.

Active listening and understanding communicate that you value their opinions, and demonstrate that you care for them.

This helps promote balance in the communication between you two, leading to a more peaceful and harmonious relationship.

Principle #3:The Bedrock of Reliability and Consistency

Being reliable and consistent in your actions and words is the bedrock upon which respect is built. Like a lighthouse guiding a ship through stormy seas, your steadfastness shows your wife that she can count on you in both calm and turbulent times.

Let’s be honest; we respect people who come through and stand strong when things are tough. The people who ‘pass the tough test in life’ are the ones who gain the most respect.

Anyone can say empty words, but those who demonstrate their strength, integrity, and honor are the ones we look up to.

Consistency breeds trust, and trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. As a partner, it’s your job to be the sturdy bridge that helps your significant other navigate the turbulent rivers of life.

Whether it’s stress from work, worries about the future, or any other challenges that arise, your unwavering presence can be a source of comfort in times of turmoil.

When your partner knows that they can always count on you, they will naturally begin to develop a deep sense of respect and appreciation. Click To Tweet

When your partner knows that they can always count on you, they will naturally begin to develop a deep sense of respect and appreciation.

Your consistency creates a sense of stability and security that allows them to fully invest in the relationship and feel supported no matter what life throws their way. So don’t underestimate the power of being a reliable partner – it can make all the difference.

Principle #4: Appreciation: The Currency of Respect

Expressing appreciation and gratitude for your wife’s efforts is like depositing coins of respect into a piggy bank. Over time, these small tokens accumulate, helping her feel valued and respected in your relationship.

Appreciation is marriage currency. Think of it like this:

Every time you express appreciation and gratitude for your wife’s efforts, it’s like adding a shiny gold coin to the piggy bank. Over time, this bank of coins will grow bigger and bigger.

Much like a piggy bank that is filled with coins over time, your wife will start to feel the weight of your appreciation and gratitude. She will feel valued and respected in your relationship, just like the coins pile up in the bank.

This currency grows over time. One deposit want make you rich. You need to be consistent.

The key is to make sure to deposit those coins of appreciation and gratitude into your wife's piggy bank every day. Click To Tweet

The more appreciation and respect you give, the more the value in the account grows.

Even if it’s something small, like a compliment or a thank you, it helps to remind her that she is important to you.

The key is to make sure to deposit those coins of appreciation and gratitude into your wife’s piggy bank every day.

Principle #5: The Bridge of Humility

Admitting when you’re wrong and apologizing is like building a bridge of humility that spans the gap between you and your wife. This self-awareness and willingness to learn from your mistakes paves the way for greater trust and respect.

It’s not easy admitting when you’re wrong and apologizing, but it’s a crucial step in building a solid and thriving relationship with your spouse. Every time you own up to your mistakes and apologize, you’re laying down another brick of humility that connects the two of you.

This bridge is built on trust, understanding, and respect. It’s a bridge that helps you to be transparent and open in your communication with each other. 

Not only that, but humility will help you avoid disrespectful behavior that jeopardizes your relationship.

Principle #6: The Shelter of Empathy and Support

Offering empathy and support during your wife’s difficult times is like providing shelter from a storm. By being there for her and extending understanding and encouragement, you reinforce the bonds of respect and compassion that hold your relationship together.

By standing by her side and offering understanding and words of encouragement, you strengthen the foundation of love and kindness that forms the bedrock of your relationship.

It’s crucial to show your wife that you care and are there for her during difficult moments. By doing so, you demonstrate the kind of respect and compassion that underpins a healthy and happy partnership.

When your wife is struggling, try to put yourself in her shoes and imagine how she’s feeling. Listen attentively and provide a caring and non-judgmental ear. Show her that you understand and empathize with whatever she’s going through, and offer words of support and encouragement to help her through it all.

By being a source of shelter and hope in the midst of life’s storms, you foster a deep and abiding bond that can weather any challenge. Remember, being a good partner means being there for each other through thick and thin – and this kind of love and support can make all the difference in the world.

Principle #7: Respecting Boundaries: The Fence of a Healthy Relationship

Understanding and respecting your wife’s boundaries and needs is like erecting a fence around the garden of your relationship. This establishes a clear border that demonstrates your care for her well-being and fosters an atmosphere of respect.

Erecting this boundary isn’t just about protecting your relationship from external threats. It’s about creating an environment that nurtures and supports the growth of your love.

By taking the time to listen to your wife’s thoughts, feelings, and needs, you can create a strong and healthy boundary that will ensure your marriage flourishes for years to come.

This creates a fence around the garden of your marriage and provides a safe space for your spouse; and emotional security (trust) is the foundation of a strong marriage. 

Principle #8: Becoming a Role Model: The Lighthouse of Integrity

As a lighthouse guides sailors to safety, embodying values such as integrity, kindness, and compassion sets an example for your wife and others to respect. Your character serves as a beacon that illuminates the path toward a more respectful and harmonious relationship.

Integrity is essential in any healthy relationship. It means being honest, transparent, and true to our word. It’s admitting when we’re wrong, and not making excuses for our mistakes.

When we live with integrity, we show our partners that they can trust us, and that we hold ourselves to a high standard. This helps to build a strong foundation of trust and mutual respect.

Kindness and compassion go hand in hand. When we show kindness to others, we demonstrate that we care about them and their well-being. Compassion takes it a step further by allowing us to empathize with others and see things from their perspective.

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In a relationship, these values can help us to be more understanding and patient with our partners. It allows us to work together towards common goals and solve problems more effectively.

Our character helps us figure out how to get along better and be more kind to each other. This builds respect.

Principle #9: The Journey of Self-Improvement

There are two ways self improvement helps build respect.

First, to be a person of respect demands that we constantly work ourselves. This is why self improvement and person growth are necessary. This is all the more important in marriage.

Second, it’s a fundamental truth that to earn respect from others, you must first respect yourself.

That means constantly working on self-improvement and personal growth. This mentality is especially critical in marriage, where two individuals come together to create something greater than themselves.

In marriage, personal growth isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s a necessity. Both partners must be committed to bettering themselves and, hence, the union itself.

This could mean anything from developing emotional intelligence to acquiring new skills to improve communication. When both people are focused on improving themselves, they create a virtuous circle in which their individual strengths combine and their weaknesses are cancelled out.

The bottom line, if you want respect from others you have to grow as a person so you become a person people will respect.

There is no shortcut to respect. It takes work. This is why we encourage couples (and individuals) to constantly grow and develop.

If you want respect from others you have to grow as a person so you become a person people will respect. Click To Tweet

It’s one of the reasons we put recommended resources at the bottom of every article. Your growth is vital for a healthy relationship. Couples that invest in their relationship are the ones that have great marriages.

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Principle #10: A Spiritual Foundation: The Anchor of Marriage

A strong spiritual foundation serves as the anchor that keeps your marriage grounded and resilient. 

Praying together, attending church, and engaging in Bible study can fortify your partnership and deepen your mutual respect.

Here are 7 ways a spiritual foundation will help you be a person others respect (especially your spouse):

1. Cultivating a strong spiritual foundation will lead to greater patience and understanding in your relationship, which will earn you respect from your spouse.

2. Prioritizing your spiritual growth will demonstrate your responsibility and reliability to your partner.

3. Faith can bring more compassion and forgiveness, improving your relationship with your spouse.

4. A spiritual foundation can give you the tools to handle conflicts and disagreements respectfully.

5. Your spouse will admire your commitment to your beliefs and values.

6. Growing spiritually can help you become more self-aware and emotionally balanced, making you a more attractive partner.

7. Prioritizing your spiritual growth will also prioritize your relationship with your spouse, earning their respect and admiration.

These 10 principles

FAQ

Here are questions we get from readers:

What If Your Spouse Isn’t Worthy Of Respect

As we mentioned earlier, we should give a level of respect to every person. What this means is we should not treat people bad just because we don’t like them or agree with them.

Respect (at this level) doesn’t mean we always agree. It means we realize every person was created in God’s image (even if they don’t believe in God, they are still created in his image – God doesn’t cease to exist based on our beliefs), and because they are in His image we should seek to be at peace with all men. (See Romans 12:18).

We show respect because they are human beings, and (equally important) because we are people of integrity and honor. Click To Tweet

We still show respect because they are human beings, and (equally important) because we are people of integrity and honor.

What If Your Spouse Doesn’t Respect You In Spite Of Your Integrity

This is tough because respect isn’t something you can demand. 

You can demand people treat you respectfully (that they don’t belittle you, curse you, harm you, etc). But this is different than demanding their heartfelt respect. 

Sometimes the only thing you can do is set strong boundaries so people don’t have access to hurt you.

If There Is One Thing That Is Most Important In Gaining Respect, What Would It Be?

The law of reciprocity is one of the most powerful concepts; it affects every area of life. 

Reciprocity simply means that if you give something, you will receive something in return.

In other words, you get out of life what you put into life. 

This works in business, relationships, and life in general. It is an unbreakable law.

A farmer ONLY gets a crop if he sows a seed.

A person ONLY gets respect by giving respect and living in a way that draws respect to you.

If there is one principle you should focus on, it would be this powerful reality.

Cultivating respect within a marriage is a continuous process that requires effort, patience, and understanding from both partners. By incorporating these ten strategies into your relationship, you will lay the foundation for a loving and respectful partnership that can weather the challenges of life.

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