As marriage partners, our role is to help our spouses become everything God wants them to be, and everything they desire. Here are seven tips on how to inspire your husband to be a better man.
The fact that you are reading this article shows you want to be a great wife. You want to nurture the relationship you have with your husband.
Maybe you have a great marriage and just want it to be even better. But, you might be sensing you need to “up your game” in the area of inspiration.
The word inspire means: to fill someone with the urge or ability to do something creative.
When your husband sees you pursuing things that touch His heart and seeing Him become all that He was designed to be, He will take notice.
As a result of this, not only will this motivate him, He will stand as if He was ten feet tall.
He will be inspired because you want to see him soar in His life. To love your husband unselfishly is the highest form of love.
You are in pursuit of His heart by inspiring him to be all He is called to be and fulfill all of His purpose.
As you inspire your husband, your connection will only continue to grow, causing your already established roots to be stronger.
Your love will have the capacity to grow even deeper and wider in each other’s lives.
Tip 1: Encourage Him
When you bring encouragement to him you are causing Him to feel secure. Your words that acknowledge the good job He is doing carry weight.
Every time you acknowledge how good of a job He is doing or the kind of husband He is, he becomes more confident as a husband.
It’s tempting to nag at times or to be critical about something, but this discourages him and takes the wind out of his sail.
There is a wise way to be open and honest about something that bothers you, but it doesn’t have to be wrapped in criticism. It can be discussed without bringing a blow to his ego.
Your husband wants to please you and if He doesn’t feel like He is, it makes Him feel like He failed.
Husbands feel accomplished if they please their wife.
Tip 2: Desire Him.
Initiate sex. Flirt with your husband. In the middle of our long lists of tasks, as wives we must be intentional about directing our attention and desire towards him.
Tasks have a way of always wanting and needing our attention. Imagine your husband’s response if He got equal attention.
We are missing how blessed we are in our marriage if we aren’t enjoying a thriving sex life. Sometimes, it’s not even the frequency of sex to our husbands as much as the initiation of it.
Now, that doesn’t mean they aren’t into more frequent sex, c’mon ladies. They are. Try being the initiator instead of always the recipient. He will love having you pursue him.
If there are underlying emotional issues in this area, consider counseling so healing can come. When a woman’s heart feels healed it can make room for a healthy sex life.
It’s abnormal to not enjoy sex.
I’m not talking about the person who is broken from trauma. Counseling is vital in these situations.Your husband doesn't just want sex. He wants you and wants you to desire him. Click To Tweet
I am talking about a healed wife who isn’t dealing with traumatic issues of the past. Your husband doesn’t just want sex. He wants you and wants you to desire him.
What husband doesn’t want to be chosen and desired? Our husbands want to be chosen just like we do. When He feels desired by you, He will be inspired.
Tip 3: Point Out His Strengths
It takes zero energy to find faults. It can come from a negative mindset and often out of a place of judgement or resentment. No one likes the feeling of being judged, especially by the one who is supposed to love them the most.
Who doesn’t fall short? We all have strengths and weaknesses. We want to hide the weaknesses and hope no one notices them. Husbands don’t want their wives to notice when they are weak.
They feel vulnerable through these struggles and it can cause them to feel self-conscious. They wonder if they are doing a good job. They question If they are leading well.
You have the power to make or break him with the smallest and yet one of the strongest muscles in your body, your tongue.
Choose to bless him and not curse him with criticism. It’s a heavy load to bear up under.
What do you do when they make a wrong decision or one they are disappointed they made? How do you approach it?
Healing a Spouses Disappointment
I remember my husband struggling with whether he should spend a few thousand dollars on a mentoring program to help him in his business.
He was a little uncertain and wrestling with the decision. After researching it some more, he went ahead and paid the fee, hoping it would be what he needed. Through his uncertainty, I reassured him of my trust and I knew God would lead him.
After He finished he was a little disappointed because the group wasn’t what He thought it would be.
Now, here was a golden opportunity for me. My approach concerning this could make him or break him that day.
He was already discouraged. I could have started nagging about the money spent, the time He lost and on and on. But why? He already felt upset with himself and felt like He didn’t make the best decision.
I didn’t want to discourage him.. I reminded him to focus on the things he did learn. How He did gain insight from some of the exercises they did in their group.
I tried to encourage him by reminding him that doing things like this has an element of risk. It’s just the price of business sometimes.
I reassured him of the confidence I had in His decisions. The trust I had in His leadership. I let him know how much I trusted Him and we would keep moving ahead until He found the right fit.The support we offer as wives to support his dream inspires him. It helps him see that He is able to accomplish it. Click To Tweet
The support we offer as wives to support his dream inspires him. It helps him see that He is able to accomplish it.
Our offer to help him accomplish it will show him the support that He needs to feel from you as his wife. This inspires him to be all He can be, even in the midst of him struggling with his personal disappointment in himself.
Tip 4: Acknowledge How Good of a Parent He Is
Is there anything sweeter than seeing your husband make your baby giggle? As they play, she screams, “Do it again Daddy”, and they both burst out laughing.
Letting him know he is a good parent reassures him that He is building something into his children that no price tag can be put on. His time with them is well spent.
He may struggle with how many hours He works feeling like He isn’t giving enough time to the kids. Pulled in every direction, he secretly battles with himself over whether he is a good Dad.
Work demands pull on him and he is concerned he isn’t spending enough time with the kids. Let him know how much you recognize the love and investment He makes in the children.
Letting Him know his work ethic is teaching your kids something. It helps him feel inspired when he knows you acknowledge his work, and how it helps provide for all the things you need as a family.
Tip 5: Don’t Nag
Biting your tongue is a great skill to have. It has saved many marriages. Your goal of keeping things clean doesn’t have to reduce you to being mean.
It’s definitely not a motivator, an agitator maybe, but zero inspiration happens when the nag comes out.
When something bothers you, pause. Yes. Just pause and breathe deep and consider how to say what you would like to see happen or get accomplished without turning into the nagging wife.
Maybe for weeks the garage has been a wreck. Now, you are reduced to walking a narrow path because of all the stuff piling up.
Take a pause suppressing the temptation to nag. Now, exhale.
You might want to say: Hey Babe, I know things have been crazy around here and we don’t have a lot of leftover time for extra house chores but how bout we all tackle the garage? What day seems to fit your schedule best?
I know cheeseballs. You’re rolling your eyes now and laughing out loud because you wanna sling a hatchet in the garage. The temptation to nag is at a nine, but you don’t. You gag your inner nag and tell her to sit down.
Nagging will produce nothing but ill feelings for everyone. Offer to pitch in and find the best day and tackle it together. Boom done.Nagging will produce nothing but ill feelings for everyone. Click To Tweet
He’s thankful for the help. You’re thrilled the garage is cleaned. Trust me, he’s inspired when you don’t nag. Ask me how I know? Enough said.
Tip 6: Help Him Accomplish His Goals And Dreams
What is His dream? What’s the vision that drives him to get up? Whatever it is, he feels an internal drive to achieve it. This dream makes him feel alive.
Except for one problem. His other job gets in the way. His current job is providing for your family so he is juggling both.
He wants the dream so bad He can taste it, because He knows He doesn’t want to keep his current job that feels empty and no opportunity for growth.
He also feels driven to own his own company and do what is in his heart.
Working at his current job is noble because it’s the provision for your family, but the dream is his heart’s deep desire.
How can you help him accomplish this? Is there a part you can do to help him?
Tip 7: Treat Him With Respect
When your husband feels respected by you He feels loved. When He knows you are proud of him, He is driven to accomplish the things that make you proud.
He feels honored and respected with a glance from you. A glance of approval along with an equal glance of disapproval carry heavy amounts of weight.
Does this mean every idea He has or every single thing He does is gonna have you doing a rah rah dance?
No. But, It means you trust him and he feels it to his core. This causes him to feel respected by you. Even if He makes a mistake, he knows you trust Him.
With your support He knows a mistake can be turned around. When he has his wife’s support He will step out with a confidence that is being fueled by you as his wife.
No one else understands him like you do. When he feels your support to see him fulfill all of the things that are in his heart it gives him courage.
When you make a decision to take these principles and start putting them in place, I believe your ability to inspire your husband will begin to re- shape your marriage. You will be on the trajectory to making your marriage even better than it is now.
Why Inspiration Is Key To Marriage Success
Encouraging your partner is a key to marriage success because it helps to build a strong foundation of mutual respect and understanding. When you encourage your partner, you are showing them that you believe in them and their ability to succeed. This type of positive reinforcement can be incredibly powerful in helping to maintain a happy and healthy marriage.
Oftentimes, when one spouse is feeling down or discouraged, the other spouse can be the key to helping them through tough times. By offering encouragement and support, you are helping to keep your partner motivated and focused on the positive aspects of your relationship. This can make all the difference during difficult times and can help to keep your marriage strong.
Encouraging your partner is also a great way to show your own dedication to the relationship. When you take the time to build your partner up, it shows that you are committed to making your marriage work. This can be incredibly important in helping to keep your relationship on track.
Encouragement is one of the keys that make marriage work best.
A marriage is a partnership, and the success of it depends on how much you encourage and inspire your spouse on a regular basis. Encouragement helps your spouse to feel confident about themselves, which in turn leads to a better self-image. This will also make them more likely to want to do things for you in return.
Marriage is a give-and-take relationship. Too much taking, it becomes selfish. Too much giving, it becomes codependent. Finding balance is key to the success of any marriage, leading partners to naturally encourage each other to do what makes them happy without having to be asked.
We can all agree that marriage is not always easy. Every relationship has experienced a tough time. One of the biggest reasons for this is that it doesn’t take two people to make a marriage successful. It takes two people to want to make their marriage successful.
Encouraging your spouse and inspiring them is one of the best things you can do for your relationship and your marriage in general. It may sound simple, but it’s actually one of the most powerful tools that you have at your disposal when it comes to making sure that your spouse stays happy with you and committed to you as well.
Questions About Motivating Your Spouse In Positive Ways
Many readers want to know how to motivate their spouse in certain areas of their relationship. In this section, we tackle a couple of common questions we get.
My Husband is Lazy; How Can I Motivate Him?
I am married to a man who is not as ambitious or motivated as I am. He is lazy and doesn’t want to take on any responsibility. He also doesn’t seem to have any ambition in life. I don’t know what to do with him as he is my husband, and I don’t want our marriage to fall apart because of this.
I think that you should try and understand the reasons why your husband is like this, and then you can try and find ways that will make him more motivated.
One thing is sure, nagging doesn’t produce motivation. It usually only produces more stress. Putting pressure on someone rarely has a positive outcome.
There is no one–size–fits–all answer to this question, as the best way to motivate your husband to stop being lazy may vary depending on the individual.
However, some tips that may help include:
- Encouraging him to set small, achievable goals and then celebrate with him when he reaches them.
- Helping him to identify what is causing him to feel lazy and then brainstorming ways to overcome those obstacles.
- Being a positive role model yourself by demonstrating that you are active and motivated in your own life.
- Talking to him about how his laziness is impacting your relationship and how you would like to see him be more active.
- Suggest fun activities that the two of you can do together to help him stay motivated.
Each situation is different, but these tips will help you move in the right direction.
My Husband And I Have Gained Weight; How Can I Encourage Him To Lose Weight With Me
This is a question that many couples have faced. This article will discuss how you can encourage your husband to lose weight with you.
The first thing you need to do is make sure that the two of you are on the same page in regards to your goals. You should both be on the same diet and exercise plan. You should also make sure that he understands what the desired outcome is and why it’s important for both of you.
You should also keep in mind that this isn’t just about your husband’s weight loss, but it’s also about your own health as well. If he doesn’t want to lose weight, then at least he needs to be supportive of your efforts and help out as much as possible by cooking healthy meals for dinner or going on walks with you.
Additionally, it is important to remember that everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for another.
Here are 5 tips on how to motivate your spouse to lose weight with you:
- Start by being supportive and understanding. Make sure to let your spouse know that you are there for them and that you want to help them reach their goals.
- Set realistic goals together. Trying to lose too much weight too quickly can be discouraging, so it is important to set achievable goals.
- Be patient. Weight loss takes time, so it is important to be patient and not get discouraged if the results are not immediate.
- Try different approaches. What works for one person may not work for another, so it is important to be flexible and try different approaches. If you find an enjoyable activity, it is easier to share the experience.
- Persevere. Losing weight is not always easy, so it is important to persevere and not give up.
There is no one answer to this question, as it will vary depending on the individual and the situation. However, these tips should move you toward your goal.
Final Thoughts on How To Inspire Your Husband
As partners we should be our spouses greatest cheerleaders.
Unfortunately, many women misunderstand their husbands’ needs, and underestimate their ability to encourage their spouse to be everything he is capable of being.
In this article we learned seven tips on how to inspire your husband.
A brief recap of what we learned:
- Tip 1: Encourage Him
- Tip 2: Desire Him.
- Tip 3: Point Out His Strengths
- Tip 4: Acknowledge How Good of a Parent He Is
- Tip 5: Don’t Nag
- Tip 6: Help Him Accomplish His Goals And Dreams
- Tip 7: Treat Him With Respect
- Why Inspiration Is Key To Marriage Success
- Questions About Motivating Your Spouse In Positive Ways